with friends ~ a place to heal

with friends ~ a place to heal


We have all felt lonely at some point and time.

When I arrived at 25yr of age to a new country, culture and language my world turned upside down, literally.

Straight out of college, I travelled to Argentina. Being born and raised in Brazil, I thought the acclimation would be a breeze :{ Young and naive, I was in for a suprise. (life is the expert of surprises) When I arrived everyone was speaking Spanish at what seemed like 100 miles a minute. 🙂 I could catch 10% of conversations and if someone spoke directly to me maybe 70%.

Argentines are not diplomatic. They are outspoken and hold great leadership and they can be in-your-face rough. Needless to say, after my first month, I was feeling lonely and miserable.

One of my friends came to pick me up at the home I was staying. “Come on, we are going to a friend’s house,” she said. We arrived as Silvia’s small home. When I say small I mean small enough for 2 bunkbeds, table, chairs, sink, stovetop and bathroom. This is where Silvia raised her small family of four children. Silvia was a single mom full of love and strength. Immediately, she embraced me tightly and shared her weathered, inviting smile. Instantly, I felt at home.

“Do you drink mate?” she asked. “Well, I don’t know but I’m willing to give it a try,” I replied. [Mate is an infusion typical to Argentina, Uruguay, Paraguay and Southern Brazil.  The ground leaves look like grass once it’s been cut. You fill the ‘mate’ with yerba ‘tea’ and use a metal straw called ‘bombilla’ a thermos of hot water, a circle of friends and you’re good to go.]  I don’t remember if I liked my first mate but I knew one thing, I made up my mind to like mate because how it made me feel. I loved the sense of belonging.  That’s right, I’d drink mate even if it was the worst stuff in the world because of the commaradarie, the sense of comfort, and that everything is going to be alright as long as we’re together.

I have learned countless valuable things from Argentines.  They are noble and robust full of potential and life but there is something about that moment, that I will never forget.  It is what was born around that mate, the feeling of belonging, that I will never forget.  It is one of those cherished moments, that I will always carry with me.

We all need a place to belong.  Our hearts yearn for that place where we can be ourselves and be loved and accepted especially the hurt and miserable.

Today my Tribute goes to Silvia Chiaradia, for opening your doors so many years ago.  Not just opening them but receiving me with her warmth and strength.

Don’t miss the opportunity today to invite someone into your circle over a coffee, tea or coke just please reach out to someone today.  You can make a world of difference. It's not what you have, it's the heart that you share it that can make an eternal difference. Click To Tweet It’s not what you have, it’s the heart that you share that can make an eternal difference.

Thank God for people who are willing to make a difference and simply outstretch their hand and connect.

Go build your legacy!

Together we can!

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